SEE
Notice what is draining you, where you have disappeared, and the patterns keeping you permanently on duty.
For women tired of being needed all the time
You don’t need to create a different life.
You need to reclaim the one you’re living.
SELF INCLUDED is a practical philosophy for loving the people in your life deeply—without disappearing from your own.
Begin hereYour energy is valuable.
Spend it on purpose.
01You don’t need a different life.
You need room inside this one.
SELF INCLUDED
A life that includes you.
You can be loving, capable, and generous without being endlessly available. You can care for people without making yourself the permanent answer to every need.
This is not about abandoning responsibility. It is about choosing your standards, your caregiving, and your use of time—so some portion of your attention belongs to you again.
THE LIVED REALITY
You can love your life
and still need relief from it.
Being tired of being needed does not mean you love anyone less. It may simply mean your attention has belonged to everyone else for too long.
A different definition of rest
“If rest only starts when everything is done, you’ve built it around a finish line that keeps moving.”
THE METHOD
Reclaim your place
in your own life.
Six steps for interrupting overfunctioning and making room for choice—not perfection.
SORT
Separate what is truly yours from what you have inherited, absorbed, assumed, or made yourself responsible for.
RELEASE
Put down what does not need to be carried, done, managed, remembered, or controlled by you.
RESET
Change the expectations, access, systems, and agreements that keep recreating the same exhausting pattern.
TOLERATE
Allow discomfort, imperfection, and other people’s reactions without rushing back in to restore the old arrangement.
RETURN
Come back to your own life—not only when everyone else is handled, but while your life is happening.
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DUTYGUIDE
DUTYGUIDE
COMING SOON
Off duty is not the same as doing nothing.
It means having some portion of your life in which your attention belongs to you. OFF DUTY is a practical guide to help you create that space—and learn how to keep it.
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Having some portion of your life
in which your attention belongs to you.
A REMINDER
Your value doesn’t disappear
when your usefulness decreases.
Live on purpose. Go off duty.